That was a date. Going out on dates is casual, even between people with no romantic interest with each other like having lunch "date" with co-workers. It took me a while to get used to this as I'm not thrilled to have the word "date" associated with having lunch with my co-workers but whatever. Dating someone however is different.
dating vs going out vs hanging out
But anyway, I'm leaving. I am just going out on a date with my new boyfriend. I would consider having a date with her. But only so long as she understood that I wasn't her boyfriend. How's that for throwing a wrench into the thought process of this discussion?
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Posted August 24, Share this post Link to post Share on other sites. Everybody has their own definitions of those things. There's no real definite line or answer. Posted August 25, But I guess those terms could mean something different for everyone. Posted August 26, Yeh, I remember talking to my friend about this. It got me really confused. If you're not, then you're dating. If you're friendzoned, then you're going out. I always thought that the point of dating is it the same thing as "going out"? How will it change the relationship we already have?
Or, was her intent more that we should be an official couple? Is it common to use "will you go out with me? I've never taken a step past friendship with anyone, and I feel like I'm making it up as I go along. The last thing I want to do is screw it up due to some silly misunderstanding! If you two are already spending a lot of time together, it seems to me that "will you go out with me?
I don't see any harm in casually bringing it up to clarify though. When you replied "yes," assuming you did, did she say, "Okay, how about Saturday night? While scroedinger is likely right, I'd start slower- kissing, perhaps? For now, I'd probably act a bit couple-esque, but don't assume she considers you to be in an exclusive relationship.
Plan events focused around you and her together rather than hanging out at the house.
Back when I was first dating, this was the thing you'd say to someone in the interval between light physical activity [snuggling, kissing] and before more serious physical activity [nekkidness, whatever]. So "Do you want to go out with me?
When I was a high school kid, this also meant exclusive, though more today may be different. This is not the same, of course, as a date invitation "Do you want to go out with me to a movie? Honestly, though, probably the best person to tell you how this girl sees your relationship is this girl herself. You don't need to phrase that as a huge Serious Talk about your relative levels of experience, either; it's the ki d of talk you can have as part of a conversation about how much you're enjoying how things are at the moment.
I feel like I'm making it up as I go along You are. So are the rest of us, experienced and inexperienced alike. Relax, enjoy the good things, don't be afraid to talk to whoever you're seeing about how things are going, and don't go through life feeling like everyone else got handed a manual you didn't. Next time you two are are on the couch, late at night, summon up more ball than you ever had in your life and plant one on her on the lips.
Silly first-time relationship question: The only answer that matters is hers, so ask, saying what you wrote here i.
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Don't worry about it wrecking anything. If she likes you, it'll just come across as cute. If she doesn't like you in that way, then she'll probably be grateful you tried to clear things up. The use of "will you go out with me? It sounds like that could be the case with her, but I'm not sure it matters.
Whether she was asking you to be her boyfriend or literally asking you out on a date, she wants to change the nature of your relationship. Instead of having this ambiguous cuddly friendship situation, she wants the two of you to keep spending time together, but now with the conscious intention of developing a relationship. I think spinto is right on here--she meant that she has the intention of developing a relationship with you.
While developing good relationship communication skills are important, I'm not sure you have to have a formal talk about this. It will become pretty apparent what she means by this shortly. Maybe she'll change her Facebook relationship status, she'll refer to you as her boyfriend when introducing you to friends etc. If you're uncomfortable with the vagueness, you can tell her that you really like her and hope she'd consider having an exclusive relationship with her and vice versa but of course in a much cooler way than that.
If I heard this I'd think that it meant "I'm very young and inexperienced, and I'd like you to know that I like you Presumably with some intention of going out on a date as opposed to just hanging out and of perhaps holding hands or smooching, but it's quite possible she doesn't really know what she expects to happen next, and is hoping that you have some more concrete ideas!
I'd also think the person was about 13 years old and I'd be surreptitiously checking whether they were misrepresenting their age. Traditionally, you pick a fairly organised activity such as going out for dinner, or going to the cinema or the theatre. This activity has to take place outside your house, and preferably presents an opportunity to dress up a bit. It has to be clear that it's just you and her. You ask her to come in advance, as in "Would you like to go and see Such-a-film with me tomorrow? You dress up reasonably smartly, you pick her up, you go on this Date.
You - as the one who organised the trip - offer to pay for both of you, but don't insist on it if she wants to go dutch. Afterwards, if all goes well, you go back to her place, or yours, and engage in some mild smooching or possibly wild sex, but I guess in this case smooching is what's initially on the cards. I can talk with my friends. I can't make out with them. Ask girl out on date 2. Steadily intensify your other physical overtures, while simultaneously trying to anticipate her threshold for them.
I don't know the specifics but it seems like this is the situation: She was probably expecting for you to make the first move in that regard, either by asking her on an actual date "Do you want to get a drink with me on Saturday? It sounds like this would definitely be your first date ever and possibly be your first kiss ever, but based on what you've said she's giving you very strong signals that she is totally down with either of those things so if you are down for that too than go for it.